That was the statement in a course that I followed. And I would like to bring the discussion here to see what your thoughts on it are, as people who work with the mind.
Basically he came with the bucket-metaphor. You want to go to work but your tire is flat, so water adds to the bucket. You arrive late at work and your boss shouts, more water adds. etc. etc.
Once the bucket fills enough, you end up showing signs of being stressed. If it fills up more, the signs become more severe. All good and understandable so far. But that is where it got strange to me.
He then said that also if things go well, water adds to the bucket. You win the lottery, your boss gives you a brand new mercedes, you meet the love off your life, that too adds to the bucket. Because “ever seen kids puke out of excitement when going to a movie or theme park?”. Looking at adults, you can see stuff like that happen on weddings where the bride or groom just gets sick.
That is where I got lost, as that would mean that if my mother dies and I win the lottery on the same day, I would get over-stressed according to that model, and I can’t imagine that, I feel like a bucket is too simple of a metaphor if you also want to add positive emotions into the mix. Every emotion adds to the mix, but to say that they are the same water added into one bucket feels like an oversimplified metaphor. Much like saying that if you eat to much, you will throw up, regardless of what you eat, so moderate your intake. It is true, but not the full picture, because there still is a difference between healthy and unhealthy food. I can moderate my intake, but if all I take in is mcdonalds meals I will not improve my health.
What are your thoughts on how “positive emotions/stress” and “negative emotions/stress” interact with eachother and with you? Have you heard or thought of better metaphors for this?